Fix body language - How do you deal with someone who acts "slutty"?

How do you deal with someone who acts "slutty"?

I have a cousin who will almost always bring up something sexual in any given conversation, no matter what the topic is. She acts as though she has no clue that what she says is inappropriate, however; I get the feeling that she does it on purpose. Her words make conversations a bit awkward to say the least. These situations ONLY occur within family events, I couldn't tell you what she does with her friends. She does tell us stories about what her friends do with their boyfriends and how a lot of guys call her a sl*t. None of us (cousins) care to hear any of this and we make it apparent with obvious body language. I also get the feeling that she doesn't "fit in" exactly with her group of friends. I should also mention that she is 16 and we are all in the 14-19 range. Recently we took a family vacation, and since she always jokes with us about her being a sl*t, someone said "yeah you are a sl*t" (or something to that effect). She ran out of the room crying. Why does she act this way?

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Send her to my room!
b.itch slap her n tell her to shut up? thats what i do >>; and she got upset for someone reminding her of what she truely is, she jokes about being one to try convincing herself that shes not
because girls and women are emotional beings, and it doesnt take anything rational to set us off. But if she keeps doing it look her in the face and tell her straight. thats the only way to make someone stop or at least try to make them stop. if your really concerned tell her to her face and then add that if she doesnt stop you will be the tattle tale and go to her parents and say look shes makin this event no fun for any of us and she needs help. Other than that you cant do anything to make her stop, its all up to her and sounds like she just needs some help because thats attention seeking behavior and could indicate that something is going on thats not good.
she wants attention, and she doesn't care what kind. Maybe try getting her into family activities where she can feel welcome and normal. Try a board game or bowling, she just needs a true friend that can actually care for her.
Maybe it is the only way she feels she can get attention. Try telling her parents about her actions, if they care about there daughter, they will most likely do somthing. Good luck, I know how you feel, but it is my guy cousins that do that. But they are teenagers, so I guess that is normal for them.
she probably likes the attention in public, but deep down she knows she is a bit of a "tart".
she's just trying to get attention... perhaps she's looking for validation from you guys.. hoping that you will say things like "don't say that about yourself, you're not that kind of person" ...she's self-depricating so because she has low self esteem... And when you all agreed with her it upset her because she wants you to think better of her.
I'm sure it has something to do with low self-esteem, insecurity, and poor self-image. How, I'm not really sure. Sometimes people wrap themselves around a certain negative persona because they think it hides some other flaw they are worried about. Maybe she doesn't think boys like her and so if she projects this image of being a slut, you'll just assume she's been there done that and maybe she'll even feel like that. Kind of like when the meanest, baddest looking guy who owns all sorts of guns, gets bicep tatoos and drives a big truck or motorcycle or something is actually pretty afraid and thinks he's a wuss. That's just a guess I really don't know much about female psychology.
Have u tried telling her that it's not a good way to act or carry urself? Sex is fun to talk about, and it's nice to show what u kow, even if it's just talk. Not everyone relizes that what u say might shape who u are to other people. That's probaBly y she ran off crying. HEr friends probably do things and talk to her, and she just maybe mentions all that, in conversation with her peers, who happen to be her cousins. She's just trying to make conversation and don't think u guys would judge her, but just be friends, and go ok, whatever, and move on. Maybe she thinks it's cool to know about that stuff too. It's her age. Just because she talks, doesn't mean she is, but the fact that perception is realitiy should be explained, and that she's giving a misperception to others by what she says...even if it's in fun. She probaBly also thinks being called a slut is a compliment...when friends do it...not family. IT all depends on her friend's circle at school, and what her perception of sex is, and why it is so. Better she learn the harsh consequences of her innocent words now, than much later in life. Good luck.
hmmmm...mabye its jus her...tell her tat she's overacting a bit too much....she could be one of those spoiled kinda ppl n im not tryin to be mean here, but ppl at my skl call a frnd of mine a slut....i mean...b4, she used to listen to pop music n stuff until she carpooled wit a frnd of her's to skl who listens to rap music, n ever since, she has...n she's become more....wat they call "slut" she knos tat ppl call her a slut but she jus ignores them....but i think tat the person who said "ya, u r a slut" should apologize....i mean..tat was very ....straightforward.....tat person should've given to her an obvious hint at least....n u should probab. tell her tat she does to be honest sometimes act like tat...n tat.....she's kinda weird tat way....so tell her tone it down a bit....but in a nice way...i mean...a frnd of mine is like 15 n she doesn't cry out when someone calls her a slut...if ppl call her a slut she should jus ignore them.....r maybe she's jus the sensitive type of person..? r...she could be jus showin off r tryin to get attention...again...not tryin to be mean...
It's a strange behaviour. However, that's an age when she first discovers sex, with all its facets: masturbation , feelings towards even the same sex and stuff. It's a crazy age, in which if you're not prepared before getting in, you might even fall in the trap that Mother Nature has in store, which is, to make you addicted to something you're curious about (often because you are so curious about something, you would like to try it). That's just curiosity, but for some it's not a JUST, it's a HUGE problem. and when they find themselves face to the wall, they become a little bit ashamed, just like when she cried. anyway, it might get less with time. the question now is, HOW MUCH TIME!!!! (that's usually during the whole adoscelence period, but sometimes people grow even before reaching 18, that's because of the environment: try to COMMUNICATE with her, and if she tries to center the communication on sex, deviate it on something else. she will not want to lose you, she just has to learn HOW not to lose you.
She seeks attention and approval through shock value. Due to the fact she broke down when someone referred to her as such is a good indicator she has some self esteem issues and most likely is not committing such behaviors. She is family and you all should somehow let her know that you care about her and don't wish to see her in that light. Be kind, I know that is difficult for your age group, but try.
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She's trying too hard. She thinks that talking/acting this way is what will make people like her, she thinks it's 'cool' No more MTV please. Either that or she is looking for the all the extra attention it is getting her. She is able to alter every conversation so the focus is on her, if she runs away crying the focus is on her. She comes back from crying the focus is on her and if she's 'ok' I wouldn't advise disowning her, or not inviting her because that won't teach her anything about how she's acting. She has to be embarrassed about what she's doing. Humiliation makes people think about what they are doing. Don't tear her down but maybe try something like the next time she alters a conversation to sex everyone stop dead and just stare at her. Then you can start telling her how 'uncool' it really is to act and sound that way. If she wants to be 'slutty cool' with her friends then she should be out with them, etc. Just be honest and maybe even sort of gang up on her, don't over do it though because it might backfire. Be careful but be honest.
Your cousin acts this way because it is the behavior of those she hangs with. A group of her family members could try to talk with her about the inappropriate talk and actions. Obviously, she understands already, if being called the term in your group made her cry. Get your elders involved. She could use some help in finding a better way to conduct herself. I actually thought that she might get it if you managed to tape a discussion and she could hear herself. She could be unaware of how she comes across. C. :)!!
She just wants attention. My sister still does this all the time & everyone just tries to ignore it now, or immediately changes the subject. You're lucky your cousin only does this around family. My sister does it around anyone & everyone, old & new friends alike. Its really annoying & she makes herself look so stupid.
Shock value. She wants vain atention and lacks imagination, so reaches for a sure (tried and true) thing. Since you're family, why not tell her how she is being inconsiderate and rude, since non of you appreciate these comments. Tell her its boring anyway. That will get her attention! Repeat this every time. She wants to impress her peers, not be shunned by them. That's the LAST thing she wants. Whenever she starts up you could (all of you is best) refer to her as "Brittany", as 'Very cute, Brittany." she'll tire of your mockery.
She just wants to get attention like some kids do. Don't react to her then she will end it up soon.
confront them on your opinion chances are they will understand your standpoint
Pay her for her services, and send her packing