Fix body language

Why does flirting and being able to read the opposites body language come easy to some and not others?

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1. I'ts by experience and instinct...
2. As a retired ladies man ( player ) I have often asked myself the same question. I never could read a woman's body language. I relied on family and friends to tell me when someone liked me.
3. I think a part of it has to do with self confidence. I notice on days when I am feeling better about myself I notice when men are flirting or looking, but days when I am down on myself I don't.
4. genetic makeup
5. some are just more attuned to sexual flirtations or seduction as you may say for one because that's where their interest and focus lies and they've developed the social skills as well. men or women who actively involve themselves in the game of mating and courtship play up their natural instincts and develop it further to the level of art, for their own benifit of course.
6. As a former bar manager I learned all about body language. Here are a few (simplified) examples: A guy sees a woman and goes over and buys her a drink. She accepts and he sits next to her. First scenario: She sits facing forward and just smiles and and talks to him. (he is not going to get anywhere, she is just being social) Second Scenario: She turns her in her seat to face him. (he has a real shot, she has now included him in her personal zone and excluded everyone else) Third Scenario: She starts picking lint off his shoulder. (he is in!) She has initiated physical contact clearly displaying to the other people in the room that she has made her selection. It is no more complicated than that. Just watch other people interact and notice how they behave. *
7. Some have more empathy, for better or worse depending on intent, than others. However it is never a one-way street, IMO, whether it's manipulation of one by the other (deception) or mutual honesty: It is entirely "serendipi-tish" (sic) if two people meet and their subconscious desires coincide - it is a magical cosmic moment. If two people meet and their subconscious desires coincide to a lesser degree at some point - the moment's potential is not fully realized. If two people meet and their subconscious desires clash, it is less than a magical moment. The two way subconscious communication should be mutually well given and taken. The "give and take" should coincide. It should not be one person figuring out how to "conquer" the other (but, it actually often is - this is manipulating the natural process) but of mutual benefit.
8. one word .....confidence.
9. Just like some people have a natural aptitude for maths, or english, or some people can sing, interpersonal skills and being able to read people's body language comes naturally to some people and not to others, of course, upbringing has a lot to do with it, like it does with everything else.
10. Cause some of us can feel the sexual tension and others cant, but thats not their fault, you either feel it, or you dont lol!
11. Everyone is "intelligent" in their own way. I truly believe that, and would encourage everyone to *not* give too much credit to things like IQ scores, booty calls, or any other qualifiers that would tend to separate us and give us something to judge each other by. Maybe your strengths simply lie elsewhere.
12. Some people just have a talent for one or the other. Some people just plain know how to flirt...at least being able to do it properly...it's a God given talent, I think. You know what I mean, right? We all do it at one time or another. Some people come off looking downright stupid, dorky, annoying, trashy, overhormoned, or just plain threatening when they try to flirt. Then some people are able to do it just right. They're able to have the target take it entirely as intended...whether it be just the fun type of flirting, or the "I'd really like to take you to bed" type...and not be offended in the process. It's a talent. Reading body language is a talent too, and I'm convinced that there's a psychic component to it. I've found that most people who are sensitive to the moods and emotions of those around them seem to also be able to read body language quite well.....not all of them, because I am pretty sensitive to others' emotions, but not so hot at the body language. It's a talent, too. Then there's the ability to do both that happens when two people have formed a link between themselves. This I can do...Angelface and I have a very, very strong link between us...and I'm sure this one is psychic in nature as well. We can (and do) flirt almost constantly (I'm sure there are co-workers of our who might feel the need for a syringe full of insulin by the end of the night...but we've actually toned it down a lot lately), and neither of us ever takes it the wrong way...and I know I can almost always look at her and know almost exactly she's feeling...a lot of times by the most subtle of facial expressions or her posture. It's kind of spooky at times, but I'm glad I can do it. Great question...have a star....and some Scooby Snacks. Yoiks!!!
13. some folk do not communicate very well????