Fix body language

How can i get better atI reading a persons body language - in everyday life (not love)?

I am not too good at understanding a persons hidden feelings/thoughts. How can I improve on it?

Public Comments

1. read Julius Fast's "Body Language" :)
2. here are lots of books about reading body language. i don't know any of them well enough to recommend one over another. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_language gives you a good introduction.
3. Go to a public place and just watch everyone and how they interact with each other. It's really fun. If you get bored you can always make up your own dialog to their conversation. The best place to find your guinea pigs would be a local mall or restaurant.
4. if you see them shaking, sweating, moving around alot , then they are nervous. and i guess just type in body language in a search engine.
5. start watching for small things. like when people lie, they tend to touch their faces, its a way of trying to hide whats coming out. or when people cross their arms its a sign that they are trying put up a barrier between you and them its a defense mechanism. observe your friends or family and watch for repetitive gestures this will help you learn what to look for in different scenarios.
6. less then 20% of all communication is verbal... there are people who absolutely can not read body language, or the intonations in voice, which can show nervousness,,etc. these people will usually fall some where on the tree of autism...the skill must then be learned... keep at it ..you'll get it, i have seen 6 year old autistic children learn :D...so i know you can!!
7. there are tell tale signs. here are some that i learned from psychology class. crossing arms is like creating a wall. this is considered a negative reaction, possibly disagreement, impatience, doubt, etc. the way a person sits will tell you alot- if the person slouches or sits up straight, etc. corellates with his or her personal space and confidence. the length of a person's steps in walking tell of confidence too. scratching the head although comical is a sign of uncertainty. eyes looking left or right will tell if a person is accessing his creative side or logical side of the brain( forgot which is which). the distance a person extends his hands to shake anothers is also a sign of confidence and personal space. basically, personal space is the space in which a person seems to move around comfortably. this is why timid girls generally move in small, short, slow intervals. think of rappers and gangsters and the way they move around. think of celebrities who walk into a room and they walk across the room as compared to people who pass the sides or by the wall to get to the otherside or worse yet, take the nearest empty seat. check out people who have just entered a room and how long they spend looking around their surroundings before settling down rather than those who simply settle down. people who talk in a louder voice have larger personal spaces than those who spead softly. there are people who slouch - little confidence, stand up straightly- confident enough, shoulders back and chest up too much- this is projecting. hope i was able to help.
8. just by looking how they interact wont do anything, but their reaction on something is what counts.
9. Usually the only way is to know yourself. Some experiences you may not ever have. thats your reason for being here, to make those you don't understand feel better about life in general. They may seem resentful at times that is just because they wish they were more like you, or they were just having one of those days. To be a genie: you use everyones powers.
10. Julius Fast's "Body Language" is not enough to read as it just gives some examples and what is right in one place could be an insult at an other place on earth. The people in USA shows the teeth very often, but to me it could mean that they are angry and secondly too white teeth are a sign that there might be a genetic fault so boys never merry a woman with white teeth if you want healthy children. Strong teeth is a little bit yellow and indicates a strong skeleton and a healthy body.
11. dont do it,,, as long u know the ppl. more and more u r gonnaa frustrated more and more,,, " a person with more and more knowledge is always gonna sad or frustrated"
12. Forget the books; just start watching people! Time is the best teacher. The more time you watch, really WATCH, people the more you will begin to notice little patterns. The more you notice the little patterns you will begin to see that certain things ALWAYS result in a certain outcome. Time and observation are the keys you need.
13. Its in his kiss. No really look at the way the man treats the least of society. The poor, ugly, handicapped, old etc. A man who wants you will smile like a crocadile and treat others like crap. "A man may smile and smile yet be a villian" shaky
14. How can I describe you now all of them? IN THIS LITTLE BOX
15. Practise it. Try to give or ask other people, see their responses.