Fix body language
How can I fix this?
I finally got up the nerve to ask this girl I like out. (previously i think that she that i was blowing her off because I'm shy). Everything went great. We went to dinner and I asked her to have lunch with me and she agreed. Since then, I was studying with her and others and getting along well. For two days everything was going well. Then I decided that I needed to study by myself. I went home and was invited to lunch by her and the group. Since I wanted to spend some time with her I went but I wasnt feeling well. I started getting negative body language from her and agreed to go back to school with the group. I started to study but decided that I should take a nap. She didnt seem too happy w/ me when I got back. Since I needed to get some studying done. I went home for a few hours and got done with the work I needed to do. I went back to school to see her and the group still there. She was still mad. There was only one other group there I went to study with them (they were girls) So then she looked really mad. The next day she wouldnt talk to me. I called her freind to see what was up. I am a stupid guy and I genuinley didnt know. Her freind said that she wasn’t mad at me. So I felt really bad for making assumptions. I saw her back at school and felt really bad but didnt know what to do. Everything was awkard. So I called her up and let her know that I had called her friend and that I felt bad about it cause it bothered me. Her response seemed pretty insincere. I feel like she thinks I’m trying to play headgames with her and that she is playing them with me in return. Should I even bother? Is this normal? This event happened over the course of a week.
Public Comments
- It's normal for guys like us - we're called idiots! We make assumptions on top of assumptions on top of assumptions, creating a massive web of crap that can lead to paranoia. Open up to her and communicate. Be honest about what you want to do instead of keeping it from her. You'll find that she's either going to understand it, or she's not what you're looking for. Trust me, there are times when to make sacrifices for a relationship; and there are times (being too late) to realize you should not have had.
