Fix body language
Urgent Body Language Question?
Ok, so on Saturday I'm approaching the most gorgeous girl I've ever seen and already know what I'm gonna say. I'm doing it in church and have no idea what her name is or anything about her. I just wanna make sure I know if the conversation will be going good or bad. We already made eye contact before and smiled at each other for 2 seconds then she looked down......which I heard means there's attraction. My question is what types of body language should I be looking for to know that she's into me while were talking? I'm 18 by the way.
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- She will maintain closer body contact , if she is attracted to you. , arms are not crossed, does not move away when you brush her arm lightly.
- If you move in closer she may be liking that and won't move back. She may still totally like having you near and move back out of embarrassment trying not to let you know she likes you.
- I think you should be looking for signs of shyness. When you like somebody you usually find it hard to remain cool (That's what I do ,maybe she's far cooler than me ,I don't know) But my experience tells me if she's too cool she doesn't care or finds you boring
- Every girl shows attraction for someone differently. Major eye contact is huge as well as her mouth. If she isn't smiling or licking her lips she may just be staring back at you. When I am attracted to a guy and want to give him nonverbal cues I break the touch barrier by brushing past him and let my arm graze his. Or I intentionally put myself into his personal space without touching him. You should watch the movie HITCH with Will Smith. Lots of good tips in that movie is guys would pay attention.
- well, the best thing to do is to keep it light and informal. make it friendly so she won't feel uncomfortable. girls often like to think guys are being "friendly" first and attracted second. You can always end the conversation with a question like, "do you go to the youth group here?" or, "maybe we should hang out like this after church again sometime?" or something as simple as, "i liked talking to you. see you next week?" This will be both friendly and maybe give her a hint that you're interested in her. Then the rest is up to her really, you can help her along, but after you make a move to speak with her a few times, if she's interested in you, you should start seeing some more blatant signs of attraction. Watch how she responds carefully. body language, well if she likes you she may stammer and be quiet, or be really talkative and talk fast, often there's a lack of eye contact, her knees may point in a bit she may fidget with her hands or stand with her elbows pointing inward or her shoulders held up a little higher. She may bend her head a little and speak to your shoes rather than your face, if she plays with her hair or blushes, these are all pretty good indicators that she likes you. If you need anymore help you can always message me! Good luck! ~T.
- If she keeps making eye contact with you. You will see a little change in her appearance, like her hair or the way she is dressing. she may try to sit closer. if your shy, Just walk by her and say, "Hi". That's it. You will both come around. Good luck!
- There's no harm in approaching someone to have a conversation. Be conscious of your body language. Don't send off signals that you're "into" her. Stay calm, don't drool, and don't come across as pushy or arrogant. Ask her questions about herself: her life, her interests, who you knows at church, her family. Gauge how much she's willing to open up. Anything she seems uncomfortable answering you might want to apologize and move on to another topic. Share a little about who you are. Maybe you two will find common interests. If things seem to be going well tell her you'd like to get to know her better. Ask if she'd be interested in a group activity: maybe a few of her friends and a few of yours bowling or something. Don't push the whole dating thing. Just take it slow and see if there's anything there. I hope this helps.
