Fix body language

Stringing along or ignorant - Is my girlfriend a lost cause?

We’ve been dating for 2 years, at the start I was optimistic, things changed. She hid me from her family because the granny thought she would be pregnant and destroy her career. She couldn’t even dispel these ridiculous perceptions (we’re bloody 19). Soon she revealed her family bonding days, film nights with her brother, her dad buying her season tickets to football and having to go along to every one. This effected when we would see each other. She visits for 2 hours and mostly watches TV. She turns a cold shoulder to anything sexual. She doesn’t wear skirts in my presence and will sit with her arms and legs crossed. Bad body language! Imagine trying to date someone who never stops checking their phone because e.g they may have to pick up their parents from a party because driving means they can’t drink. This dedication has meant that I have NEVER been able to meet up with her during the day - go to dinner or surprise her. You could say she isn’t into me but when she failed to turn up to see me on her birthday I was so annoyed I turned off my phone, she cried for most of the night because she feared it was the end. It’s not as if I give her loads of money, why is she holding onto me? What do you make of this?

Public Comments

1. You've been dealing with 2 years of THAT? Break it off already man.
2. i personaly think you deserve better. i mean sure she has ties to her family but she should be proud of you enough to want to show you off to her family and friends. she should not be ashamed to do this. she needs to take a stand and be like i am an adult and i want to spend time with my bf..you guys need to have a serious talk and if you dont meet these parentals soon and you dont get more time than i would probably just go... i mean u have been dating for two years and she cant atleast aknowledge you exist...
3. Sounds like this young lady has been brainwashed by her family. I believe in family loyalty, but this situation seems really out of control, especially since she is 19 years old. If you can't persuade her to untie the apron strings and make her realize that you are not trying to take her away from her family, you would just like to be part of her life also, then I woul say move on and find someone else. Good Luck