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when a man touches you tenderly what does that mean?

What does it mean when a man touches you in a nonsexual way tenderly and you are not lovers but like each other and there is ''sexual stress'' going on? It is like we can't keep our hands off but we musn't touch improperly. I touch his arm and he touches my shoulder. Now and then. What body signals are these. I am interested in body language..what is your take?

Public Comments

1. can't help sorry !
2. My take is that you'll be touching each other improperly very soon. Tender touching and flirting can only go for so long.
3. I think you guys want to become sexual with one another, however there is something holding you back. Perhaps the thing holding you back maybe your afraid of ruining your friendship.
4. It sounds like flirting to me.....and if there is some sexual stress going on....I'm sure that's what it is.
5. WHY can't you two hook up? What is holding you back? EASE the sexual tension and get it over with. You both seem to want it. Go for it.
6. He is testing the water. He might think you are willing to take it to the next level. Proceed with caution.
7. It means that you are attracted towards each other but something is stopping either one of you /or both of you to move further! there is no point in pursuing this .. if you "know" you cant get physical or be lovers! Try to back off .. its unhealthy..!!!
8. Ok, I am going to answer as though you are a woman and he is a man, so: My take is that you probably touched him once and he liked it so there is now an exchange going on. When you touch him, you know it's intentional as is the case whenever a woman touches a man, no matter how slightly or "nonsexual" in appearence. It's always sexual in the circumstances you are describing. I think it's foreplay myself, and by the sounds of the pace you are moving at, it's pretty good for the both of you. When a woman and a man willingly touch each other and accept each other, there is nothing "improper", so I don't know what you mean about that.
9. Do you recall being comforted by your mother when you were a small child? She probably said something reassuring like, "there, there, everything will be all right now," as she patted you on the back. She touched you in some way. The sense of touch is our most primitive sense. Yet scientists made few attempts to study it until the 20th century. We have just begun to realze the importance of touching, of tactile communication. If someone touches your arm, you are aware of some message. When skin contacts skin, either directly or through layers of cloth, we have a sensory awareness. The sender and receiver may experience different meanings from that touch. Before we can understand the meaning of someone's touch, we must consider the whole situation. Did someone gently hold your hand? Did they grab you by the arm? Or did they merely brush against your arm in passing? The part of the body touched is significant, too. A hand that rests on yor knee says something quite different from a hand that lightly rests on your arm. Imagine you are at an awards banquet. Someone you did not like was coming towards you. He greeted everyone around you with a brief handshake, but he did not take your hand. The absense of a handshake where one is expected can be shattering. This lack of touch says more than a swift kick in the shins. George Bernard Shaw once said, "silence is the most perfect expression of scorn." Your enemy chose to be silent in his body language, yet the message was clearly shouted at you. The word 'touch' is the longest single entry in the Oxford English Dictionary. One definition reads: "The most general of the bodily senses, diffused through all parts of the skin, but in man specially developed in the tips of the fingers and the lips." Tactile experiences begin early on the evolutionary scale. Tiny blink creatures feel their way through life. One of the first experiences of the unborn human embryo, before eyes develop, is the sensation of being touched. While the embryo is less than 8 weeks old, barely one inch long, it responds to stroking. When the tiny form of life is tickled lightly on the upper lip or near the nose, it bends its neck as if to move away from the tickling. Our understanding of touch has evolved over many years. In the 19th Century in the United States, babies in institutions lacked tender loving care. The mortality rate was shocking...nearly 100% in infants under 1 years old. Babies dies from a disease called maramus, a Greek work that means wasting away. Some doctors recognized the emotional emptiness in hospitals and institutions. Few did anything about it. One doctor, after a visit to Germany, brought the idea of tenderness. he had toured the wards there in a children's clinic. A fat, waddling old woman carried a scrawny infant about on her hip. He asked abou tthe woman. "That's old Anna," he was told. "When all else fails, and we have done everything medically possible, then we turn the baby over to old Anna. She's always successful." Americans at that time in our history thought that handling a baby other than for clocklike bottle feedings would result in a spoiled child. To put a baby in a cradle and touch him often was an unscientific thing to do. Not until the 1920's did the idea of mothering and cuddling infants in hospital wards take hold. On one year, mortality rates dropped by more than 25%. From birth, babies need to be held and touched. Children who are deprived of touch in infancy may grow up to be emotionally and mentally stunned. To get in touch, in a very real sense, we must be able to embrace and enjoy the embraces of others. This capability is one measure of our development as a healthy human being. If we are deprived of touch, we are not only physically awkware, we also become tactless in later life. As you can briefly gather, not only our words, but also our acts of touch communicate involvement and response...powerful needs for both young and old. Duh, it means he likes you!