Fix body language

Sometimes girls think i am gay, is my body language suggesting that?

I have a problem because when I talk to girls at work, or when I'm out places, I don't give out any vibes. This is tough to describe. I don't give the impression that i like girls. Or the impression that you are a woman and I am a man, you have your special parts, I have mine, and... Meanwhile, guys at my job have no problem getting with whoever they want. I don't know what they do, do they say something, act a certain way, what? It's frustrating because I haven't been with many girls and I'm 28, so I'm obviously doing something wrong. Sometimes girls ask if I'm gay. I don't know why they would think that, unless I am putting out a gay vibe? I want to be like a normal human being, a sexual being, and not put any doubts in a woman's mind as to whom I am attracted to. Follow me? Please help. This is a serious question!

Public Comments

1. Yes
2. dont speak in a high voice? don't giggle or laugh like gay people? try to flirt with them
3. im in middle school and ive seen tons of this stuff its just how yuo talk to them man and your attitude to them try that
4. You sound OK to me .
5. wear a hat like in your picture and you'll do fine.
6. I don't know but if you want to stop the doubts you could just pick a girl you are attracted to and kiss her.......that should stop the gay questions and might get you a girlfriend :)
7. try wearing a wedding band
8. rough i must say. maybe you should just ask girls on dates and that should show that you aren't gay and also then maybe you and her would start dating.
9. Are you gay?? I mean.. maybe you give off the wrong vibes by the tone of your voice, or how you walk, and the way you use hand gestures! Its a hard question to naswer because I cannot see what your manorism's are?
10. you know what? I'd say own it, but make sure that people know that you're straight. Because that is who you are, and you will eventually find someone. Personally, even if you do give off a metro/gay vibe, that is not a bad thing in my book.
11. I have had male friends whose behaviour has been kind of neutral. Flirtatious people often attract the opposite sex to them as they are putting out the vital signal that they are interested. Maybe your behaviour exhibits that you are neutral? This can feel safe and brotherly to a woman, but does lend itself to being suspected as gay. Can you start being a little flirty? Just a little is all that's needed. It's fun!
12. Hmmm..That's a tough one unless I could watch one of these situations.. Some people just give off that kind of vibe, if you don't really acknowledge that girls are different than guys, they might just seemed a little like "Oh he doesn't find me attractive, he must be gay" kind of thing. It also could be just something like since you haven't been with many girls, they think you're just not interested. My advice, hit some bars (without getting tanked) and practice your flirting and pickup techniques. The worst that could happen is that they'll say no, but you'll never see them again right?
13. it is probally your clothes girls like boys that are cool and still have a good personality
14. People only think someone is gay because they don't show interest. I think when you meet someone who is attractive to you, you'll be just fine. Stop worrying about what people think and don't question yourself, either. Just because you're not interested and you don't act like a sex fiend like so many people do, it doesn't mean you even have a problem. You just haven't met the right person yet. And when someone asks if you're gay, ask them why they are asking... it will give you insight to your initial question on your mannerisms.
15. Tell them that if they think you are gay that you'll have sex with them as proof. Who the hell cares what some girl thinks, ok, so what, you've got a couple of girls in your city who think you are gay. Where the hell do you think they hear it from, other girls.... If one person thinks your gay in an office, everyone else will find out that you might be gay. That's the way it works. So forget them and find a better girl.
16. .. perhaps you are just shy and more uncomfortable around girls than your friends are.... that is not a bad thing ... maybe the right girl hasn't come along who has noticed your good qualities.... ... maybe you can join a gym, or a group of singles (lots of churches have them).. you need to get to a place where you can meet different types of women, and not just women you work with everyday, or women in bars.. try to talk to checkout girls, and just get yourself used to talking more ... it is ok to flirt a little if you see someone who looks interesting... .. i personally don't find men interesting who are all into themselves and overly flirty and obnoxious.. but lots of girls do.. i prefer the shy intellectual type.. just get out there and try different locations to meet girls....
17. You have to flirt! make eye contact and smile a lot at a woman that your interested in. Its all about the impression, that's your problem. You have to act like you like them. Ask them questions about themselves, get to know them. I hope it works out for you! good luck
18. Are you pretty feminine? Like, if you are into things that girls are into like the arts, gossip, and celebrities instead of football, beer, and shit talking they might automatically thing you are gay even if you never talk about boys. If you are a softer soul then that is not a problem for girls- you'll probaly be the best boyfriend they ever had. Try talking about girls you think are hot or ex-girlfriends in front of your co-workers. Not vulgar like, just talking. That will at least let them know you are straight and avb.
19. why does every one else's opinion bother you? if you know who you are then that is all that counts. if they think you are gay, then they arent the one for you. be you, be yourself. one day you might meet a girl who knows by talking to you that you are not gay and will want to date you. its not about how old you are or how many girls you slept with. its about the confidence you portray to others. instead od worrying about whether people see you as gay or not, maybe you should backfire it on them. when the next person asks you if you are gay, ask them confidently with a touch of arrogance, no are you? life is short, death is a knock away.
20. A girl who can't tell the difference between a gay or straight guy is seriously mixed up and should be avoided.
21. Well, first of all the guys at your job are not getting whoever they want. That is just a line they are feeding you. You actually have an advantage in talking with women if they are more relaxed with you. The guys at your job are telling you tall tales, as most guys do about their sexual experiences, so just chill out, but to get started why don't you just go ahead and ask a lady out.
22. I started uni over a yr ago and met one of my closest friends there - i thought he was gay, it turns out he's not. I thought he was gay because of the clothes he wore and that he got on with the girls great - sounds bad because every girl wants a man whos friendly and understanding but.... maybe this is what the problem is. i reckon the majority of women go out with men who are wrong for them. e.g 'treat em mean keep em keen'- u always want whats bad for u! my friend at uni also has trouble getting with girls, i guess he's just too nice! i personally like a bad boy - a lot of women find this attractive! ask yourself a question - R u bad enough???? dont worry urself tho - she's out there for u, trust, dont waste time on a girl thats not really interested, u'll know when some one likes u, the feelings mutual, u'll both feel it! hope this helps good luck 4 the future xXx
23. Hey Jason, some guys just have an easier time finding (or picking up) girls then others. I think that you are better off because if a girl takes the time to know you, it's a girl that is genuinly interested in you. And about the "sending out gay vibes" part.. if you know your not gay, then your not gay. I think the problem is with stereotyping. They have declared a certain kind of walk, talk, dress and/or behaviour as gay and so they assume that you are gay. I know you might get tired of this, but the best way is to answer nice and politly "no, I'm not" Or maybe a great shirt with the words: Yes I'm gay! def: Showing or characterized by cheerfulness and lighthearted excitement; merry, happy or some other non sexual explanation of the word.... But then again some people may not understand the punchline....