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Body language?

Ok, I have a female friend and we are very close. She says she doesn't want a relationship, having been burnt badly b4. My question is about body language.... When she sits near me, she regularly plays with her hair, necklace and stretches a lot blatently pushing her chest out. She sometimes sits close, but doesn't touch.... unless I am facing away and sometimes she places her hand on my shoulder or strokes my back.. Now previously I'v always looked at these as signs of affection and of someone being interested..... But, she recently she seems to sit cross legged, with her arms crossed in front of me a lot, yet still maintains eye contact when we speak, and smiles so wide at almost everything I say.. I would give anything for her, she is my soul-mate. In the past I would have been all over her like a rash, trying it on, but I seem to be holding back afraid of rejection.... Is it worth the risk of ruining such a good friendship? Are the body language signs for or against?

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Be careful, you dont want to ruin a friendship!Body language signs are a good indicator!I would ask her how she feels!Good Luck!
maybe she just flirting
I think that her body language is indeed seggestive. I would assume that shes interested. Maybe you should give er a shot.
Maybe. ^^ Try it out, but maybe you should wait a little to make sure she likes you.
Tell her how you feel. I've done it,i felt a bit of a tw*t at the time but it worked,we are still together four years later
she told you she doesn't want a relationship all the rest is just teasing your best strategy is to ignore her, if she is bluffing then you called it .
she told u that she don't want a B/F she is just messin' w/ u'r mind but if u really like her ask her out if she says no then ask her if u 2 can still b close friends
If your friendship is strong, I would just hold back those feelings for now. If she has been hurt in the past, she probably appreciates you because you are a guy, but her relationship with you is different. This doesn't mean that she doesn't like you because it sounds to me like she does. All I am saying is right now you should just let her know that you will always be there for her. As time passes, and the body language becomes more defining, you should go ahead and tell her how you feel.
Her body language is like she really likes you. But she is too scared to tell you as she has been hurt in the past and doesnt want it too happen again. But if you start to drop hints and take it slow then she should loosen up and confess her true feelings for you.
Playing with her accessories could mean that she's bored or she's nervous. Pushing out her chest could be for a genuine stretch, but if she's wearing something revealing, she could mean "look at this, aren't they just too gorgeous". When she crosses her arms, if she puts one hand on the other arm so you can see her fingers, she's paying attention. If her hands are tucked under her arms, she doesn't feel like talking.If she crossess her legs with the knee on top towards your direction, she's interested, but if the knee is in the other direction, she's not.Dont be fooled by body language, maybe her heart is not ready for the relationship, but the body is.maybe it's the body looking for loving.It's not worth it to ruin the friendship. If the relationship goes wrong, you could lose the friendship.Rather just be patient and wait until she's ready.let her know that you are interested in having a relationship, but you will wait until she's ready.Good luck
I think that maybe she likes you but as you say she has been hurt in the past,. She is scared. Dont give up hope. Take it easy. Be her friend and give her time. Dont come on strong as you will frighten her away.If you feel that she is your soul-mate she is worth waiting for.What is for you will not pass you by.
It is worth the friendship, take the risk you chicken. whats the worst that could happen, she says bugger off, and then u accept your fate. bobs ur uncle
There is a gu y at my job that doesvthe same thing.but he don't play with his hair.One day I was outside my job with my brother and he came over to us.When I told him that he was my brother his face looked like he was releaved.He will touch me like grabing my hand when I walk past him.and another thing he likes to do is make good byes longer.But he don't want to have a relashonship.So I told him to stop playing with my feelings and to tell me how he feels. I was right he wan ted to have a relashonship. The whole thing aboutwanting to be single is to pull ya in. Play back flrt with her. Show her you can do it too.
Dude! Be careful with women! If you are really good friends then leave it at that. Sometimes when you are such good friends with another girl some sparks fly with the friction of affection and care. But don't ruin it, she is just teasing and seeking attention to her body. Maybe she just wants you to give her a complement, so do it and that's it. And by the way, did I tell you women are crazy? No. Then let me tell ya: WOMEN ARE CRAZY! They don't know what they want. Keep your little buddy :) in his place and just be open to a sweet loving girl who will pass your way. Stay clear of games, forget it! A nice honest girl will make you feel far better than a girl/friend who is just a teaser. Take care dude.
It sounds like she was leading you on in the beginning. I know girls who are like this. They don't want a relationship, but they like the attention they get from you, so they do little things to keep you interested. I guess she realized she had taken it too far, and now she's restraining herself a little bit. I think you need to look elsewhere, because she's just playing games. It doesn't mean she's a bad person though. Some women love the power they can weild over men and they use it to their advantage. The thing is, you deserve someone who is totally in love with you. Hold out for the one who is in love, because this girl will cause you a lot of heartache.
It is not wort it to take the risk of ruining the relationship, however, if u dont clear this out with her, then u'll b carrying a burden in ur heart for years to come. If I were in ur position, I'd plan out a day to spend with her doing things that she enjoy doing but rarely has the time to do it. For instance, if there's a carnival or fun fair or theme park nearby, then take her out for a simple breakfirst, have fun at the carnival, go out for a simple lunch, then maybe a walk round the park, tea afterwards ... then u should probably shower and clean up a bit, a movie and finally a simple dinner. The reason for simple meals (breakfirst,lunch, tea,dinner) is because you do not want to indicate that that was a date, but rather a fun day out with a friend (however try not to invite any other friends - just the 2 of u - and focus on what she wants or just simply ask her to play along and have fun). This way, u can gauge her reaction, and at the end of the day u ask urself, r u willing 2 spend the rest of ur life with her.... Also, I do recommend at dinner for u to have a conversation about where the 2 of u stand in a relationship i.e can it go further or should u stay friends? If the friendship is strong, than telling her the truth about how u feel for her wouldn't change anything, and if god willing, she may have the same feelings for you as well. I hope it turns out good.... oh yeah - since she just got burnt badly b4, then I suggest u take caution not to be the rebound guy.
why not start dating her, you can still be friends and see how it developes, you have nothing to lose. Faint heart does not get one anywhere.
I'm not an expert so I cannot say but they deffinatly are NOT against. You seem perfect together, maybe your both holding back in fear of rejection...like you say! Maybe ask a friend to talk to her and find out her feelings for you, but don't let her be aware that you put him or her up to it. I can see the two of you being very happy together but that can't happen if you don't go to the next level. If you find out she feels the same, take her out to dinner or write a card stating your feelings. Be romantic, be a gentlemen... Now truly, best of luck and don't let her slip away! x
Body language is such a crucial skill to have. It can serve you in relationships, at work, at parties, in every facet of life. As a Counselor, I was trained to read body language. There is much being physically communicated that the untrained eye misses and, because of that lack of knowledge, many mistakes are made in judging intentions. Not having the opportunity to sit with you or your friend, it is impossible to give an accurate reading. Let me suggest an ebook (see below) that will help you tremendously with this situation and all others in life. Jim DeSantis