Fix body language

hey LADIES! is attraction a choice?

alot of guys are saying that women don,t choose who they are attracted to, that its all about a guy,s body language and personality I know I,M not all that great with women but I,M not sure I agree with some things I read in books and magazines And even I have a preferance regardless of a women,s looks or how smooth she can talk!!

Public Comments

1. Initial attraction is instinct, but personality goes a long way from there.
2. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AsBNn6kv2YpTkzMLGhWXz4vsy6IX?qid=20060808123337AAq9xWd
3. some people dont even get a chance because of looks sad but true
4. attraction is the on button to teh wole thign but personality if its not comptaible with teh girl can turn her off and make her see all eth thigns wrong iwth you that attraction blinded
5. Personality is more important. The girl described in this link is a girl who goes for looks first. http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aiu5SckXHjaallUlkH.XtMDsy6IX?qid=20060808124515AAyEQgk
6. No not really,I was atracted to my husbands looks at first,but when I got to know his personality I totally feel in love with him...Anyone I have been with guy or girl was not a choice it just happened,some people were really sexy,but when they opened their mouth the attaction went away...
7. Attraction is a choice up to a certain point. but there are some poeple I'm attracted to and I have no idea why.
8. attraction to the heart is what you want first, if you get the attraction to your heart for who she is in side and you love her for that then attraction of the outside should fall right in with it. when you love someone for the way they are on the inside, the outside youll see is beautiful too.
9. A lot of woman like a man easy on the eyes. But there are time that a woman wants some thing from the heart More
10. Attraction is a choice. But it doesn't make a person who they are. What is on the inside is what counts...beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
11. thats just the first step. sometimes it isnt though. i know a lot of pple that were friends b4 they went out. but i dont think that attraction is a choice. its just whether u persue the attraction that counts. the next step is whats inside.
12. to me attraction is not a choice. its all about the heart,attitude,personality. but if a guy dont have that,then he only cares about himself,and same with a girl.i know some guys out there would be willing to look for a girl with a good heart,attitude,and personality. no looks!
13. look atraction does play a small role in getting to know a guy like if i go to a party and i see this ot guy i might want to go up and talk to him if i thought he was nice and had a good personality i would like to get to know him better but if i didnt like who HE IS i don't think i would want to talk to him again so attraction is usually the first step in getting to know a guy well for most girls including me atleast ~hope that helps ♥
14. attraction is not a choice. It is instinctive. You cannot choose who you are going to be attracted to. It just happens. It is as if you have no control over. But what the attraction leads to is up to you. You have a choice there and then.
15. Physical attraction is not a choice its an instinct. If there is a hot guy near by a women can since it imediatly. But a relationship built on physical attraction alone will not last. Love is what you need to make it last and that is not just instinct it goes much deeper
16. Its mostly instinct at first then once she gets past how he smells and how symetrical he is, she listens to what he's got to say and makes another judgement based on his personality. Mostly instinct at first but after she gets past your freshly shaved face and your cologne and your sparkling smile, she'll listen to you talk and if you're not up to her standards then she won't stick around long.
17. yea i guess, well wen u are attracted to someone that just how you feel about that person
18. That's true...and the attraction is what gets things going.....but in the long and short of it,,,its the compatability of each others personalities, common goals and morals, similar aspirations...women look and men and dream about what their children will look at. And women will size you up....."Will he be a good provider, a good father?" Probably in or put of college will you meet the one....when ppl are a little more mature, and choose potential mates not just on looks alone. Instant attraction to each othe may ignite a firey love making sessio, but with nothing more....it will always fizzle out