Fix body language

Could I have a social disorder, or just something simpler? I would like to know in case I can get it fixed?

I am a 19 year old sophomore college male. I have no friends in college, but I have a couple at home, of whom I don't see much of during breaks. I used to wear the same clothes everyday until I forced myself to improve myself, but I still eat the same things for lunch and dinner every day. I have a speech impediment. I can never get past "what's up" in a conversation except for maybe asking one question. I can however though continue a conversation if the opposing member thinks of something to talk about. I've read many books and practiced but no change. I am anxious in public and prefer sitting in my dorm all day rather than socializing with people. I prefer being by myself all of the time, even away from family, although I desperately want to change that. I stutter most of the time I talk. I never knew what body language was until I recently read about it. I can talk to the couple of friends I do have though easily and can converse normally and comfortably, but not with others. I also get obsessed with one particular thing for a long period of time (aka running 90 miles a week to get fast, eating 5000 calories a day to gain weight, etc). Sorry for the weird format, I just wanted to add a lot of stuff in a shortish amount of space. I really want to be like normal people but it's always been so difficult. What can I do to help? TIA!

Public Comments

1. hummm, intersting, the only way i can think of that would be normal is to talk!! it dosnt have to necessicarly have to be with men it can be with women....if that is the problem..? just talk to sombody...start out with 1 person....and that person may have friends...but i dont think it is as big a deal to have friends in college as it is to have friends in highschool, its improtant to have friends yes...but if you only have one or none at all it can be understanding...because you are in college..and you probably have a job, and no time to socialize...dont stress over it, make yourself more know (visible) go out some place to eat, take yourself to a movie..be more approachable...you seem like you are set in your ways and no time to talk to ppl, you run 900 miles a week (wow) <<impressive!!....but anyways, i hope i helped...?
2. There is lots of help out there for you. I don't think you need to be "fixed" whatever you ment by that? You listed what you believe are your falts or things you don't like about yourself. I would like to see a list of things you do like about yourself. The college you attend will have info on where you can go to talk to trained people, but I want you to know that you are not alone in your shyness. Many people suffer as you do. Pressures of keeping up with your studies are enormous and you should have things you enjoy doing to compensate. You are young and are preparing for your future. Take another step now and find help so you don't waste another moment of precious life. Best of everthing to you don't forget to smile every day even if you don't feel like talking. Right now sit down and write a list of things you do like about yourself.Then go find a group or a person who can help you find the things you are looking for. You are not broken...just shy. :) :) :)