Fix body language
Could I have a social disorder or just something simpler? I would like to know in case I can get it fixed?
am a 19 year old sophomore college male. I have no friends in college, but I have a couple at home, of whom I don't see much of during breaks. I used to wear the same clothes everyday until I forced myself to improve myself, but I still eat the same things for lunch and dinner every day. I have a speech impediment. I can never get past "what's up" in a conversation except for maybe asking one question. I can however though continue a conversation if the opposing member thinks of something to talk about. I've read many books and practiced but no change. I am anxious in public and prefer sitting in my dorm all day rather than socializing with people. I prefer being by myself all of the time, even away from family, although I desperately want to change that. I stutter most of the time I talk. I never knew what body language was until I recently read about it. I can talk to the couple of friends I do have though easily and can converse normally and comfortably, but not with others. I also get obsessed with one particular thing for a long period of time (aka running 90 miles a week to get fast, eating 5000 calories a day to gain weight, etc). Sorry for the weird format, I just wanted to add a lot of stuff in a shortish amount of space. I really want to be like normal people but it's always been so difficult. What can I do to help? TIA!
Public Comments
- You are simply a shy person. It is good that you are organized in your life that you don't need much. You do the same things because it comforts you. You are keeping yourself clueless to the world because it suits you and I find that very appealing. You will meet someone that will accept you just as you are. My husband is a very shy person and during our courtship, it took time for him to be a little less shyer than he is now. He waited 30 years to fall in love and he had never been in a relationship. He has been around the block, if you get the drift. He chose me because he was ready. You are just similar to that. Hang in there, and keep on being YOU because that is what counts. You are simply shy. There's lots of labels out there. You have none of them. You have a name and you are just shy. It takes time and for your stuttering situation, try reading poetry out loud. It helps you overcome it. I am a loner myself. I have friends but they are back home. I am happy just being one with God and nature. Then there's my hubby. You are just as normal as they get. Smile.
- you sound like an introvert ( no problem) a little compulsive ( could be a problem if it gets out of control; if it starts controlling your life) it sounds like you are embarrassed when talking - sometime, just because you are uncomfortable, and sometimes because of the stutter. there are voice coaches that may be able to help the stutter. I remember Jim Nabors stuttered when he talked, but not when he sang. Aside from the voice coach,l i think it would be worthwhile to make a list of questions or topics you could talk about, so you could talk without needing some big important reason. You know - " has anyone seen that new science fiction move?" kind of thing.
