Fix body language - Relationship Issues Questions of Trust And Kindness?

Relationship Issues Questions of Trust And Kindness?

I love my boyfriend very much. He has hurt my feelings and has almost past the point of no return. He says he loves me and wants to work on things and does not want to say goodbye. What should he have to do or show me to convince me that he is going to be trustworthy and kind? I am ready to move on if he does not fix things. Trust Not putting himself into situations alone with women that could lead to cheating. That is not staying alone in a hotel room with a woman. Not dancing with a woman a night on a trip. Watching boundaries. Kindness Not blaming, not lashing out verbally or not having excessive anger that shows in body language. Communicating without being defensive, I look at this listed and think there may be no hope at all. What do you think? Can counselling help a man with these problems? I am willing to get counselling. I am always willing to improved myself for myself. I am fine with moving on. I tried to wish him a good life and happness, but he said no. He did not want to say goodbye. He said he still wants to work on things. He said I am too sweet and he does not want to deal with me. On the other hand he is saying that I have to deal with this stuff or break up with him. I guess people are correct he wants to have his cake and eat it too. He wants to be commited and single at the same time.

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I THINK THAT YOU ARE ON THE RIGHT TRACK, AND YES THERE IS HELP FOR SOMEONE THAT ONCE HELP. IF REALLY WANT TO WORK IT OUT, THIS IS THE RIGHT WAY TO GO. I HOPE HE WILL WANT TO DO THIS IN ORDER TO]MAKE THIS WORK OUT. GOOD LUCK.
I would let that one go. There are lots of guys that would never bring any of that into the relationship. You shouldn't have to deal with it.
I am also in the same postion..And I ask mi man the same..Also I have asked the exact same question on here.I suggest that you make him prove to you that "your" all that matters..If the cheating issue came from a fren then make him stop chilling with that fren.And if he has cheatin/player frens then mostly likely hes goin to be tempted to do the same,just to fit in..And when he ask"wat can I do to make you believe me now"tell him that he sud already know..And see how much he acutally does know you..
Sweetie, the only way to answer all of those is to get away from him and learn who YOU are and what YOU deserve. All of your questions focus around him...when they should focus around what you need & deserve. Speaking from experience....do NOT waste valuable moments of your life being unhappy. Give yourself a break from him....get on with a life all your own. It'll take time, but you'll be a stronger woman for it. Plus, if it's meant to be....you'll be together no matter what. Good luck to you either way.
he wants to have his cake and eat it too. Or so he thinks. He is not mature enough to understand what a loving partner he has in his life. You should do counseling. But to be honest with you, it will most likely benefit you the most. In terms of giving you the strength and will to find somebody you deserve. Until he really wants to change for himself, things will be the same. Good Luck and remember your worth.
counseling helps if he will admit to a problem....... trust is a special part of any relationship...the answer isn't about him..its about you.....make decisions based on your own boundaries , if he wants you and can remain faithful after counseling then give it a shot....you know what you have to do.....protect your boundaries now or you will suffer the consequences..........
relationships have outside boundries.....like the dancing and flirting and having others in the hotel room........ the showing and convincing things are up to you....... YOU have to decide the boundries and the ways....... YOU have to decide if this man is worth your time and effort and heart.....I do hate to say this, but just by reading and the age I am, 48 yrs., this sounds like a case of a person who is afraid or is allergic to commitment or it could be the he is playing both sides of the fence...... God bless